Friday, December 5, 2008

A Rite of Passage

A few posts ago I mentioned how badly Caleb (and Josh) needed haircuts, and since I was tired of paying $20 each for haircuts they didn't like, I figured it was time to start doing them myself again. Caleb was less than excited about it, but considering the alternative was for me to cut his hair at night while he was asleep (with presumable worse results) he settled in for the ordeal. I didn't do a terrible job but since the boy likes his hair a la Albert Einstein style, I'd say we're both satisfied.
I had turned on How the Grinch Stole Christmas for him to watch during the haircut, and figured this was a good time to run upstairs and take a shower, assuming Esther was as engrossed in the movie as the boys. My first mistake. My second was to leave the haircutting scissors on the table. You can probably guess what is coming next! I returned from my shower to see this on the floor:


And my first thoughts were, "Please let that be cat hair, please let that be cat hair - it's too long to be cat hair - aaaaah!" Esther was pretty proud to have accomplished something so grown-up by herself, and I just couldn't get mad at her.
Sad, though. Very sad. We were just getting to the point where her hair was filling in and she looked less like a boy and more like a girl!
I think she caught on that her attempts at self trim didn't make me ecstatic, but I know it could have been much, much worse. She only took a little off the front and focused mainly on one side and the back. When I put her hair up into two ponytails, one is significantly shorter than the other! I love this girl, though we are back to wearing pink, pink, pink, and people still think she's a boy if her hair is down. Sigh.

Monday, November 24, 2008

I've done the unthinkable

Let me just stand on my soapbox for a moment and address the issue of Christmas arriving before we even eat all the Halloween candy (which tends to be November 1st at this house). Thanksgiving is one of my favorite holidays, and it just gets skipped over every year. I have steadfastly refused to 1. put up Christmas decorations, 2. listen to Christmas music, or 3. buy much in the way of Christmas presents until the Thanksgiving dishes are washed and dried (part of that, I will admit, is that I procrastinate everything until the last minute anyway - just check the postmark of the last Housley family Christmas letter...).

I am ashamed to say, I have failed on all three this year. It all started at Sam's Club, and I place all the blame on the Mormon Tabernacle Choir. Their CD was for sale, and rather inexpensively too! And then I saw CD's by Sarah Brightman, Josh Groban, and Harry Connick Jr. And I found one that I'd never heard of, but looked promising: The Trans-Siberian Orchestra. Turns out they are neither an orchestra, nor Siberian, I'd guess. How did I not know that they were heavy metal? It's not that I dislike heavy metal music, per se, but it was just such a shock - the distance between what I expected and the reality was a vast wasteland of surprise and dismay. Mike and the boys all think it is cool, so there goes the option to quietly toss it in the box bound for goodwill. I love the Josh Groban CD, and enjoy Sarah Brightman, though I think Sissel has a better voice (gasp! You've never heard of Sissel! You are missing out!!!) I have managed to exert some self control and still haven't opened the MoTab CD - that I'll save for the way home from the family Thanksgiving dinner.
Then after visiting my grandparents, Esther and I stopped for a delicious trip to Target (our beloved Cache Valley has two, count 'em, TWO Walmarts, but no Target) and I found just the thing for neighbor gifts and Mike's co-worker gifts, something I agonize over every year. And then the excitement just hit me - I could be done gift shopping before December 24th! It truly is possible this year! After that it was a slippery slope, and thanks to a church craft night I am proudly displaying my countdown blocks and bobble head Santa/reindeer/snowman. I even started addressing our Christmas cards last Saturday (though I still lack a "here's what we did all year" letter and family photo, so I'm sure I'll still be racing to the post office on Christmas Eve, fully believing that if I can get them postmarked before Christmas Day, that it still counts!).

Merry Chr - I mean, Happy Thanksgiving, everyone!

Wednesday, November 19, 2008

Popsicle Terrorist Camp


The kids and I were making popsicle stick bombs yesterday, and I got to wondering, does this teach them the fun of explosives? Am I creating future terrorists? I console myself with the knowledge that the thrill of blowing things up is inherent in the male gender, and has been a part of the male experience since the Stone Age/Garden of Eden, however you look at it. I'm sure Adam took a few of those lucious fruits and lobbed them, just to watch them splat. And maybe I'm being sexist - Eve may have enjoyed it just as much. I know Esther was having a blast (no pun intended) with the popsicle sticks. Caleb even invented a few new designs. Doesn't he need a haircut though? All three kids have a thing with building "forts" and I've tried to ban them but I guess I'm not specific enough. And the only reason I have tried to ban them is because they dump all the cushions off the couch and loveseat, haul out all the blankets in the house, spend hours constructing complex but unstable tunnels and dens (using things like potted plants and computers to anchor the edges of blankets), and then promptly begin to fight over the proper use and ownership of the elaborate. Then they get in trouble and get sent to their rooms and who has to clean it all up? mmmmmmeeeeeeee.
Still, I didn't specifically outlaw building a fort BEHIND the couch, I just said no using of couch cushions, so here is a picture of their latest creation. A few hours after the photo was taken, the plants did indeed take a tumble. Those are some hardy spider plants - they get dumped several times a year and yet they are still alive (and that is no easy feat for any plant in my house).
I do have to brag on Josh today. He has joined a county children's choir, and loves it. Finally we've found his niche! Today I drove the carpool, and planning to go grocery shopping, grabbed a water bottle for the road. I was trying to drive and open the water bottle - it was new and had a safety tab thing on it - and had it between my legs to secure it. I got the bottle open and my incredibly muscular thighs (ha ha snort!) put just enough pressure on it to geyser about a cup of water right into my lap. I hopped up out of my seat, grabbed napkins, knowing full well I had just soaked myself in a rather inconvenient spot, and had one of the kids hand me one of those reusable shopping bags to sit on. And yes, I continued to drive throughout! Bless those county roads... How am I supposed to walk into Sam's Club looking like I had just wet my pants? Then Josh came to my rescue, and offered to let me tie his jacket around my waist to disguise the obvious wet spot. Thank you thank you, my sweet boy! He didn't even mock me like a normal ten-year-old would!
I also have to publicly thank my neighbors Brandon and Kristin for coming to our rescue on Monday night. Mike finally got me to cut his hair, and 2/3 of the way through, the electric hair trimmer I was using gave up the ghost. I knew we needed a new one - it was so dang dull. Still, Mike was left with a sizable topknot of hair, and it was 10pm. I knew Brandon and Kristin would still be up, so I called with the hope that they had one I could borrow. They agreed only if I brought Mike down so they could see, and actually had a brand new set they were about to take back (Kristin finally admitted to herself that she had no desire to cut anyone's hair) and I was able to just buy it from her. So now I have a nifty new hair trimmer set, complete with an eyebrow guide. Anyone's eyebrows need a trim?
I know this post is all over the place, but I also needed to share my good experience with my grandparents on Tuesday. About a year ago, I felt the distinct impression that I needed to get their oral histories documented. I made one attempt to video my grandparents talking about their early life, then found myself too busy to keep it up. A few months later, my grandfather had a stroke that has left him unable to fully verbalize his thoughts, and it frustrates him a great deal. I have missed my opportunity with him and I will always regret it. Part of that guilt has motivated me to spend one day a week down with them (they live about an hour and 15 minutes away), and just help them around the house with whatever they need. My parents (who live four houses up the street) will help with Esther, though she seems to be the highlight of my visit to them anyway. This week I pulled out lots of the dead plants and just helped clean up their yard a little, and Jason (who had a day off of school and wanted to come) washed windows. They were so grateful, and it made me feel fantastic to have helped in some way. My dear grandpa, who has always been so sprightly and funny, struggled with what he wanted to say. I knew what he was thinking, so I just told him I loved him too. I know my time with them is limited, and I am determined not to let this precious time slip away.
I invested a few months ago in a BBC set of movies based on Charles Dickens novels, and just finished watching "Martin Chuzzlewit." Awesome. It deals with aging and heirs and those who love with no thought of being included in the will. I'd never even heard of the book, so I'll have to add it to my list. I want to watch some of the others, but I also want to read the books too, so I'd better get cracking. I'm almost finished with "Great Expectations" which I have read before but love even more this time. Can't wait to see the movie for that one! Speaking of movies... I am proud to say I am NOT going to see the Twilight movie this weekend, but only because we have a Housley family party at the same time that my sisters are going to see it. Rats. I've decided that books (and movies) like the Twilight and Harry Potter series are like M & M's - yummy, and I can munch right through them, but books written by Charles Dickens, Thomas Hardy, Jane Austen, the Bronte sisters, these are fine Swiss chocolates that have to be slowly savoured. Not as easy to get, but infinitely more satisfying. Trust me to come up with a good chocolate metaphor.

Tuesday, November 11, 2008

Things I've done/ have yet to do

To participate just copy and paste in your own blog, and bold all of the things you have done. It was interesting to find out that I had done more than I expected to have done, but there are some experiences I'm ashamed are still on my to-do list. Happy discoveries!

1. Started your own blog
2. Slept under the stars
3. Played in a band
4. Visited Hawaii
5. Watched a meteor shower
6. Given more than you can afford to charity
7. Been to Disneyland - Disney World three times though!
8. Climbed a mountain - Mount Olympus in Greece
9. Held a praying mantis
10. Sang a solo - in 5th grade
11. Bungee jumped
12. Visited Paris - disclaimer: I toured Europe with my brother and parents when I was five, but I'm only marking the things I actually REMEMBER seeing
13. Watched a lightning storm at sea
14. Taught yourself an art from scratch
15. Adopted a child
16. Had food poisoning
17. Walked to the top of the Statue of Liberty
18. Grown your own vegetables
19. Seen the Mona Lisa in France
20. Slept on an overnight train - on the way back to Athens from Mt. Olympus
21. Had a pillow fight
22. Hitch hiked - to get to the train station from Mt. Olympus!
23. Taken a sick day when you’re not ill
24. Built a snow fort
25. Held a lamb
26. Gone skinny dipping - with my mom and sisters in Fiji
27. Run a Marathon
28. Ridden in a gondola in Venice - I remember my dad threatening to throw my socks in
29. Seen a total eclipse
30. Watched a sunrise or sunset
31. Hit a home run
32. Been on a cruise - it was during a hurricane, so no pleasant memories there
33. Seen Niagara Falls in person
34. Visited the birthplace of your ancestors
35. Seen an Amish community
36. Taught yourself a new language
37. Had enough money to be truly satisfied
38. Seen the Leaning Tower of Pisa in person
39. Gone rock climbing
40. Seen Michelangelo’s David
41. Sung karaoke
42. Seen Old Faithful geyser erupt
43. Bought a stranger a meal at a restaurant
44. Visited Africa
45. Walked on a beach by moonlight
46. Been transported in an ambulance
47. Had your portrait painted
48. Gone deep sea fishing
49. Seen the Sistine Chapel in person
50. Been to the top of the Eiffel Tower in Paris
51. Gone scuba diving or snorkeling
52. Kissed in the rain
53. Played in the mud
54. Gone to a drive-in theater
55. Been in a movie
56. Visited the Great Wall of China - coming up next spring!!!
57. Started a business
58. Taken a martial arts class
59. Visited Russia
60. Served at a soup kitchen
61. Sold Girl Scout Cookies - bought plenty though
62. Gone whale watching
63. Got flowers for no reason
64. Donated blood, platelets or plasma
65. Gone sky diving
66. Visited a Nazi Concentration Camp
67. Bounced a check
68. Flown in a helicopter
69. Saved a favorite childhood toy
70. Visited the Lincoln Memorial
71. Eaten Caviar
72. Pieced a quilt
73. Stood in Times Square
74. Toured the Everglades
75. Been fired from a job - Baskin Robbins while in high school - it was kind of mutual
76. Seen the Changing of the Guards in London
77. Broken a bone
78. Been on a speeding motorcycle
79. Seen the Grand Canyon in person
80. Published a book
81. Visited the Vatican
82. Bought a brand new car
83. Walked in Jerusalem
84. Had your picture in the newspaper
85. Read the entire Bible
86. Visited the White House
87. Killed and prepared an animal for eating
88. Had chickenpox
89. Saved someone’s life
90. Sat on a jury
91. Met someone famous
92. Joined a book club
93. Lost a loved one
94. Had a baby
95. Seen the Alamo in person
96. Swam in the Great Salt Lake
97. Been involved in a law suit
98. Owned a cell phone
99. Been stung by a bee

There you have it folks. Enjoy going through your own list.

Tuesday, October 28, 2008

Update on Heng Ai

We got two emails today - one from our agency and one from a company in China that sends packages to your waiting child (since the items are purchased and mailed within China, the orphanage doesn't have to worry about customs duties). Both gave us some updated info on Heng Ai. First from our agency:
1. What is his/her nickname or what do they call him/her?HENG AI
2. Is he/she in foster care? If so, how long?YES. ABOUT 2 YEARS AGO.
3. Can he/she walk or bear weight on his/her legs yet?YES. SHE CAN WALK VERY WELL.
4. What is his/her current health status (weak, sickly, healthy)? - VERY GOOD HEALTH.
5. What is him/her personality like?ACTIVE AND OUTGOING.
6. What does he/she eat other than a bottle? EAT AS NORMAL.
7. How would you best describe him/her? A VERY SMART GIRL.

I was very relieved that she is walking well - that takes crutches off our packing list. All good info, but the RedThread company's email was slightly more informative:

height :97cm
head :50cm
chest :51cm
weight :15kg
left foot:14cm
right foot:16cm

She is called heng Ai or Ai Ai

She is a very naughty ,outgoing and smart girl ,the nanny told me that if Ai Ai and ai sheng (a boy,he is going to be adopted by another american family too,he is 6 ) are in the orphange together ,they these naughty kids can turn the orphange over one time ,the orphange love these two kids very much!!!

I will mail your package out in these couple days and Ai Ai will get her cake on her birthday too,love,Ann

I know the word "naughty" should strike this mother's heart with fear, but I'm just so happy to get some information on her that I don't care! I was able to contact the little boy's adoptive mother, and we'll be able to keep tabs on each other - they expect to travel before we do, and if they could get a picture of the two together, that would be priceless. I love the internet! And in reading this other family's blog, I was inspired by her oldest son's cross country photos and dragged myself away from the computer to go out and run. It was only three miles, but considering I haven't really run at all since the marathon 3 weeks ago, it was a small victory. It was sunny and beautiful and the dairy wasn't too stinky. Pleasant run! Except that I had images in my head of Esther and HengAi, two scary-smart girls, getting into all sorts of mischief. I can hardly wait! Yes, feel free to remind me of this when I'm pulling my greying hair out from all their antics. Sure, remind me how I WANTED this. Just don't expect me to thank you for reminding me!

Wednesday, October 22, 2008

Happy Birthday Dear Caleb


Happy, happy birthday to my dear boy Caleb. Nine years old! Wow. I can't believe the years go so fast. I still remember how scared I was when I found out you were coming (your brother Josh was only 6 months old), but as soon as I heard your little heartbeat, I fell instantly in love and all doubts and fears were gone. I am so grateful that you gave me the chance to experience the miracle of childbirth, and I have no doubt that God planned for you to come at just the right time. You were such a sweet, happy little boy, and you still have that in you (most of the time). You are an exceptionally bright and curious guy, and I know that you will learn so much in your life. I love that you get so excited when you discover things and how they work, and that you are absolutely convinced of your ability to puzzle it out. I love your determination, and your refusal to give up, even when I beg you to! I love your sense of humor and your memory for a good joke. I love how you watch out for the lonely and afraid. And I love how you still enjoy snuggling up and being held once in a while. But most of all, I love that you are mine.

Last days in DC

Just a quick blog to finish out our DC trip: On Saturday, we actually got up and going and down to DC in time to buy tickets for the long-anticipated (by Caleb, anyway) International Spy Museum. These weren’t cheap either: $18 for Mike and $16 each for Josh and Caleb, but if you think we were going to let this opportunity pass us by… Besides, we know Caleb has a looooong memory, and he may be involved in choosing which nursing home we’ll get stuck in someday. So, we called it a retirement investment, of sorts. After securing aforementioned precious tickets we walked the five blocks or so towards the White House where we were to meet Josh’s birthmom, Colbie. It was pretty darn chilly, and after passing a McD***lds, I steered my family right in and up to the counter to buy some hot chocolate (let me note that I detest all items sold by that particular establishment, unless I have just run 22 miles and want to eat the greasiest thing possible, or am hankering for hot chocolate, which is actually pretty decent). The lady at the counter gave me a bizarre look and informed me that they don’t HAVE hot chocolate. What? I thought their menus were constant, unchanging, an oasis of permanence amidst a sea of change? Or I guess that would be DESERT of change – oases don’t usually occur in seas. Whatever. We did pass a Starbucks-type joint, but I was too cheap to fork over $5/cup for 6 people so we stopped at a little kiosk outside the White House Visitors’ Center. Best buck-fifty hot chocolate I’ve had. Better, even, than McD***lds.

Anyway, Colbie had scored us some tickets to tour the White House gardens, and it was interesting to see the trees that past presidents had planted. Some of the later ones had photos of the pres and first lady poised over shovels, attempting to look like they were actually going to do some digging. I didn’t buy it, I mean the first ladies had on heels and pant suits, and they were gold plated shovels, for crying out loud. After the tour (which had some pretty intense security, as you might imagine) we headed toward Colbie’s apartment, where she had lunch planned for us. I am unable, especially here in a “public” place, to express the respect and love I have for this amazing woman. I sat here for a while just trying to put a sentence together about how grateful I am for her and the role she has played in our lives, and I just can’t find the words. I hope she knows what she means to all of us. She truly is family, and I can’t say anything to top that.

After lunch, Mike, Josh, Caleb, and Colbie went to the spy museum, while Jason, Esther and I headed across the street to the Smithsonian’s American Art and Portrait Gallery. It was basically a B plan for me, as I didn’t really want to go to the spy museum (especially not for 18 bucks) and I knew Esther would sleep in her stroller, and it was just right there. Wow. I spent nearly 3 hours there and I could easily have spent another 3 and not been satisfied. I don’t consider myself an art critic, I didn’t really study it much other than a few classes in college, but I have to say I found my favorite place in DC. There were fantastic portraits of well known Americans, as well as some bronze statues (mostly just the heads) that seemed so close to having some kind of living consciousness. It was amazing to be surrounded by people who have played such an enormous role in our history, and I was almost humbled to be in their presence. And that was only one floor. Jason gamely tried to keep up but after a half an hour he found a nice padded bench and took a nap. Oh well. I thoroughly enjoyed it and only regret that I only saw half. I was so sad when the spy-er’s came to get me, and I can’t wait to go back to finish that museum someday. Sigh.

We reluctantly parted from Colbie and returned a little early to start dinner and the big pack-up. We were able to share dessert with Grandma and Grandpa, and then it was bed. G & G invited the kids to come over in the morning for breakfast after getting ready and that was so helpful in getting them somewhere where they couldn’t unpack as we packed. We managed to get out the door by 9:30, catch the train to the bus, which took us to the airport, and made it with time to spare. The only scary part was arriving at the metro station/bus stop and Mike realizing that he was not going to make it through the half hour bus ride without some sort of bathroom stop, but alas, the metro’s restroom was not functioning and there was nowhere else to go. He was desperate (and by now Caleb and Jason had to go too) so they finally had a taxi take them to somewhere. $11 later, they returned refreshed and emptied and we were off.

All in all, it was a wonderful trip, and we are so glad we were able to spend some time with loved ones there. It was an “AWESOME” trip, and the kids were great.

Monday, October 20, 2008

Connection problems... Thursday/Friday

I had this fabulous post all written out, but never could get a decent internet connection, so here it is (sans photos, as I have misplaced my card reader and I'm too *&#% tired to look for it tonight).

It turns out we didn’t need no stinkin’ tickets – at least not for the Holocaust Museum or the Bureau of Engraving. We seem to get a later start every day, and yesterday it cost us. We straggled out of bed and finally got out of the apartment by about 10 am, went to the National Aquarium, which was a lot like the aquarium in Salt Lake City, and that is no compliment! We have been spoiled by having experienced the Monterrey Bay Aquarium, and we haven’t found anything yet that can even come close. Still, we had high hopes, it being called the National Aquarium and all. Quite disappointing, especially since it is one of the few places here that charges admission. We then went to the food court at the Ronald Regan Int’l Trade Center and tried in vain to have a quick lunch - you just can’t do that with six people all wanting something different, and only Mama holding the money. So, we just missed having enough time to take the Engraving and Printing tour, and decided to spend the 45 or so minutes before our scheduled Washington Monument tour checking out the Holocaust Museum. I had been looking forward to experiencing this museum, but after going through the children’s exhibit (Daniel’s Story) I was depressed and had no desire to see more after we came back from the Washington Monument. Odd, since I love all books and movies associated with the Holocaust (favorites: Night, The Hiding Place, Life is Beautiful, The Pianist) and I have always been fascinated with that time in history. We saw a short video about the ideas and politics that lead up to the Holocaust, and it mentioned that many of the main religions are rethinking the pronoucements of their church fathers about the Jews. It mentioned that one church body was openly disputing the words of Martin Luther, and I was so sad that he, of all men, would disparage the Jews, but then I realized I was thinking about Martin Luther KING, not Martin Luther. Two very different men! I’m disappointed now that I didn’t tough it out, but Caleb and Jason weren’t too psyched about it either, so just Mike and Josh returned, while the rest of us headed to the Freer Gallery. It has a huge collection of Asian arts, and all in all it was very interesting. Esther blissfully slept through the whole thing – this poor girl hasn’t had a nap in a bed (or even in a fully horizontal position) for a whole week now and she is still doing so well. We are all doing rather well, considering we are all short on sleep, and it gives me hope that we won’t totally regret taking them to China with us next year.
Anyway, the Washington Monument was interesting, though we were all disappointed that they wouldn’t let us take the stairs down. I especially wanted to see the engraved block donated by Greece to honor the modern father of democracy, but the very crowded and full of very tall people elevator only slowed down long enough for everyone else taller than 5’9” see a few blocks. Oh well. We split up to the aforementioned museums, met back up together, noshed on a few bags of chips and popcorn, then headed out to walk the long walk to the Lincoln memorial. On the way is the incredibly impressive and inspiring WWII memorial, and probably the most reverent and respected place we’ve been so far. The architecture was amazing, but what I loved best were the quotes etched on the walls. Beautifully done memorial. We also walked past the Vietnam memorial, impressive mainly because of the sheer numbers of names etched in the wall. We didn’t notice a register until we passed through it, but we found the names of two Housley’s listed in the register. Next time we’ll try to find them on the wall and do a graphite rubbing. I’d also like to find the name on my POW bracelet that I got years ago. Finally on to the huge Lincoln memorial, and it was a chaotic and crowded as the WWII memorial was quite and respectful. Huge groups of rowdy students crowded the steps, but thankfully stayed mainly outside, so that the inside was a little quieter. Again, a great, great man who shaped our nation and was a moral beacon for his people. At the gift shop I purchased a copy of his Gettysburg address, along with the Declaration of Independence and Constitution that I think will look nice when framed.
We finally made it back around to the National Mall and rode the metro home, ate dinner at another food court at the mall in Wheaton (near Kensington, where we are staying) and dropped off into bed, exhausted. Thus the reason for the lack of a post yesterday.
Today we again took forever to get going, and didn’t get to the National Zoo until almost noon. We met Colbie there, and actually got through the whole thing by closing time at 6pm. We saw so many cool things, and saw more aquarium-type creatures at the invertebrate house than we did at the Aquarium. Giant and red pandas, a very loud lion, tigers, cheetahs, gorillas and orang utans, elephants, hippos, capybaras, komodo dragons, etc. Well worth the trip, and all for free! I found the perfect birthday gift for Caleb (b-day is Monday): recycled paper journal made from elephant poop! The label assures it is odor free, and it doesn’t look like elephant poop, but he’ll love being able to tell everyone that is what it’s made of. We stopped in Chinatown for dinner, and while it was nice to see Chinese characters on shops, there were VERY few Asians in sight. We gave Jason the task of asking a Chinese person for a recommendation on where to eat dinner, and we had to walk for a while just to find someone! He did accomplish his task, and led us to a nice, crowded (that’s always a good sign) restaurant where we finally ate something other than food court offerings. Delicious!!! Josh and I even tried the calamari – it was okay, but one taste was satisfying enough, and we stuck to the curried chicken and beef with snow peas. Going home on the metro is always exciting, as the kids seem to find their second (and silliest) wind and entertain/annoy all the other passengers. Jason has been tutoring me on Chinese phrases (darned if I cannot remember tomato sauce for the life of me) and I give him a new vocabulary word each day. So far we’ve done intriguing, patriotic, spy, integrity, and today was persistent. He was so cute with Esther today, and didn’t sleep even once on the metro. I think this vacation just might help him gain some new sleep habits. Let’s hope so.
Okay, I’ve babbled enough, the laundry is almost done, and we have another big day tomorrow, trying to fit in every must-see thing in our last day of sight-seeing. Sigh. I’m going to need a vacation when I get home.

Wednesday, October 15, 2008

Tickets? We ain't got no stinkin' tickets

Well, we had to change plans again, as all the places we intended to go today issue same day, time specific tickets. Like we can get our whole family to the ticket booth by 8am! We can't even get them out of bed by then! So, after taking Jason to a high school in Bethesda for the PSAT test (which was part of the plan), Mike and I spent a few hours at the LDS temple while Mike's parents watched the kids (which also was part of the plan). Before you gasp and wonder what kind of foster parents would make their child take a test while on vacation, let me just say that this was ALL Jason's doing! He even suggested he stay home to take the test at our own HS, but I reminded him of his obligation to travel as a family (I believe my exact words were, "Not a chance, Buster! We already paid for your ticket - there's no way you're getting out of this one!"). It was a lovely morning at the temple, and very restful - so restful that we both struggled to stay awake during the session. This temple has a lovely ordinance room where the line between men and women is just a different colored arm rest between seats, so we got to sit together, and not be separated by an aisle. This was very helpful today as we took turns jostling each other to stay awake. Beautiful, beautiful place though, and a nice chance to be alone together.

From here on out it was fly by the seat of our pants as we tried to figure out what to do. We ended up traveling downtown and eating lunch at the food court in the bottom of the Old Post Office, where I found a Greek food counter with an actual Greek person working there. So I got to chat a little with the owner, and she complemented me on how well I spoke, considering how long it has been since I lived there. I think she was just being nice.

We wandered down towards the Tidal Basin where many of the presidential and war memorials are located, but just ran out of steam before we got too far. We stopped at the White House visitor's center and found out all the places to stamp our National Parks passports. Josh was very happy about that.
We also stopped long enough at the Boy Scout memorial to take the photos of our two potential Boy Scouts, and then made it as far as the actual basin to find that the paddle boats (our REAL destination) closed up for the season on
Monday. Rats.
We could see the Jefferson Memorial off across the Tidal Basin, but couldn't drum up enough enthusiasm to walk to it, until I mentioned the possibility of finding an ice cream stand along the way, and then it was a trick to keep up with the boys. Jason especially was zombie-like, and I was starting to worry that he was getting sick until the mention of ice cream was like putting the Energizer bunny in his back pocket. At least I now know what motivates the boy!

It is always inspiring to read the words of the great men who shaped our nation, and Thomas Jefferson really did have a way with quill and ink.
While we were there, three presidential helicopters flew by toward the White House, then two (decoys, we presume) flew off and one landed on the lawn. It was too far to see if the big man himself got off, but we assume it was the Prez being dropped off after a play date. I thought this would be a nice opportunity for a family photo, but Caleb and Jason were not quite in the right frame of mind, and Esther just spilled her Skittles on the step. Still looking for that perfect Christmas card setup.
We never did find ice cream on the way, but as we wearily trudged back to the metro stop, lo and behold a tent arose out of the middle of the National Mall and there it was, just like the promised land, a cooler with ice cream. It was like manna from heaven, and just the thing to get us back to the metro stop and plop exhausted into the seats.
Except for Esther, who danced around a pole for most of the ride, tempting fate and the train driver, daring them to throw her off balance. This girl has style, I'll give her that. What she doesn't seem to have is an off switch!

Tuesday, October 14, 2008

Mount Vernon

Today we rented a mini van (for $45 bucks! Though we wasted about 2 hours to get it and an inexpensive booster seat for Esther) and drove out to Mount Vernon, George Washington's home in Virginia. I know it was a place that Mike's mom really wanted to go, but it didn't really sit at the top of my must-see list. I'm so glad we went! It really is a beautiful and peaceful place, and made me think lots about this great (though imperfect) man who lead our country through its early growing pains. What a contrast to today's leaders, sadly. Washington was a reluctant leader, and wanted most of all to be a gentleman farmer. The majority of today's politicians seem to want to run for office more for the great power it gives them, and less for the opportunity to serve the American people.
Esther ran right up to the statues of George and Martha and their grandchildren to hold hands with the cute little (bronze) boy.


The house was interesting, but I thought the grounds were the best part. We walked down to the tomb that Washington, in his will, directed to be built. Leading up to it was a sign that requested respectful silence, and that just added to the austerity of the site.


Not far from the tomb was the monument to the slaves who lived and died on the farm and their supposed burial grounds, and I thought that was the most interesting place of all. The grave markers no longer exist, and it made me sad to think of the bodies of men and women buried there, with no real lasting record of their lives.


The last few photos are of the mansion at Mount Vernon. I thought it was funny to see the boys and Mike all taking a photo, but by the time I got the cameral out, they had moved on. Jason (who really enjoyed today) tells me that he got a picture of me taking pictures of them taking pictures of the mansion house. Esther is, of course, playing in the dirt.

Monday, October 13, 2008

A Day on the Mall

Today we had to change our plans – apparently federal workers get the day off on federal holidays (duh) and the Bureau of Printing and Engraving (where they print our increasingly weak dollar) was closed for Columbus Day. The Smithsonian museums were open though, and both boys were thrilled to visit the scene of “Night at the Museum.” We were all a little disappointed to realize that the movie must have been filmed in New York, because there was an elephant in the front lobby, not a giant T-Rex skeleton. No Atilla the Hun either. We did see some amazing exhibits though – the Smithsonian must have spent a small fortune on taxidermy – anyone know the going rate of stuffing a rhinocerous?


I think the highlight was meeting up with Josh’s birthmom, Colbie, and spending most of the day with her. She steered us to the coolest stuff, and reminded us that the National Archives displays the Declaration of Independence and the Constitution. The boys were less than excited until we reminded them that this was in the movie “National Treasure.” Yet another movie reference. Is this the only way to interest my kids in history? Jason, by the way, was rather unimpressed with the whole day and spent the better part of the Air and Space Museum and every metro ride snoozing. He claims he saw all this stuff at museums in Shanghai. Oh well, the rest of us found it all interesting. Caleb wanted to sit at the very front of the metro train and spent a good twenty minutes with his nose pressed up to the window so that he could see out the front. The kids were sure tuckered out after all this walking, and they actually went to sleep with out too much parental threatening (last night was awful. Nice mom goes to bed at 9pm and mean mom awakens with a vengeance – poor Caleb couldn’t quit giggling and I finally made him stand out in the hall, and Esther finally climbed up on our bed to fall asleep. Mike was asleep on the floor by Esther’s toddler bed, the first one to sleep, of course).
Tomorrow we plan to rent a car and drive out to Mont Vernon. Hopefully we will actually get photos with our family in them. The only good one today was when Esther and Josh were playing “Hug Monster.”

This poor little girl won’t know what to do if Heng Ai turns out to be a girly-girl. Tea parties just aren’t her thing!
Speaking of Heng Ai, we are still anxiously awaiting word of Pre Approval so that we can request updated photos and medical reports, and start sending her care packages. I especially want to send her pictures of us, and hopefully start getting her used to the idea of a new family. It has been fun to follow the blogs of those currently in China adopting older children, especially the little girl that touched my heart nearly a year ago, and opened the door to consider an older child. How very, very lucky I feel to be able to form my family this way! I know it wasn’t always that way – I’ve spent years feeling sorry for myself and how “hard” it has all been, but now I’m just so grateful for these experiences. At church yesterday we talked about overcoming trials, and I got to thinking that what used to be my greatest trial - infertility – has resulted in my greatest blessings – my adopted children. Of course I love Caleb, my bio boy, as much as Josh and Esther, and I am also grateful that I got to experience childbirth once, but it hasn’t felt like I’m giving up something. Adoption is a rich experience in its own way, and I’m so thankful for it.

Sunday, October 12, 2008

Beginning of DC adventure

I was too tired last night to chronicle our travel day, so I'll review the big points. We actually made it to the airport with time to spare, which is so not how Mike and I used to travel pre-children. We were pro's at cutting it close, running through airports to reach our gate, being the last passengers to board the plane, literally watching the door close right behind us. Having to haul children makes that kind of traveling a little impractical. We still managed to miss the family boarding call (Mike chose that moment to take a leisurely stroll to the restroom to wash his hands) so we had to sit at the very back of the plane. That made me a little nervous about making our connection in Denver, but Southwest pulled through and left on time. As we were pulling back from the gate, the flight attendant asked those in window seats to please press their faces up to the window so the other airlines could see that Southwest was flying with a plane full of passengers, neener, neener. I do like Southwest, and they did get us to both Denver and Baltimore on time or early, but I can't say I like how they seat their passengers first come, first served. It was tricky getting six seats together, and as I walked down the aisle, it was almost like a junior high lunch room - having to choose who to sit by. I swear there were people thinking, "I'm going to be the last one picked AGAIN."



Anyway, our flights were bumpy but not too bad, and the kids did really well. I took Esther into the bathroom to change her diaper and she insisted on having a try on the potty (don't want to discourage that, even if it is never sucessful) and after she hopped off and closed the lid, she stood up on the closed lid and flushed. It was REALLY loud, and she jumped about 3 feet into the air and into my arms. I thought I was going to wet my pants, I laughed so hard! She was pretty tired by the time we reached Denver, but changing planes (which was set up so nicely - we arrived at gate C39 and walked to C41 for our flight to Baltimore) just woke her up and she was silly, giddy, then ornery before she crashed about an hour from landing. We had to have a talk with the boys about not wandering around, then just about lost them in a metro station when they managed to get off, but the doors closed before Mike, Esther, Jason and I (and all our luggage) got off. I had a Momma Bear moment and without even thinking I just pounded the doors and they opened again. We all managed to get out and I thought I'd be sick right there. Just thinking about Josh and Caleb alone at an inner city metro station makes me feel a little ill right now! Awful mental picture!



We finally made it to the apartment where we are staying (in the same complex as Mike's parents) and even though it only has one room, it is still better than a hotel (we have a kitchen with a fridge/microwave/stove). And waaaaaay cheaper. We had a lazy day today and didn't have to go to church until 2:30. Mike's parents' ward is all senior missionary couples who work in the Washington DC temple, so the pressure was on in Sacrament meeting to keep the kids quiet! It was a spry ol' group and we enjoyed church today. I thought it was interesting that the closing song was As Zion's Youth in Latter Days. No moss on these folks!



Tomorrow we are planning to head to the Tidal Basin area of DC. Photos, I promise!

Friday, October 10, 2008

This marathon I DID run

I was a part of history. Apparently, it has rained twice during St. George Marathon's 32-year run, and it was bucket loads last Saturday. Not just a misty drizzle, or even the occasional cloud burst. No. It rained the WHOLE time. I was hoping it would be overcast, maybe even sprinkle a little, and I guess all 5,030 runners prayed for the same thing. Is it possible to over-pray? Audrey (my sister) and I tried to keep as dry as possible during the hour wait for the race to start by huddling under our clothing drop bags, and we managed to scrounge up a few garbage sacks just before the race began. I will never scoff at garbage bag wearers again! Note to the uninitiated: people take a garbage bag, punch holes for arms and head, and wear it while waiting and during the first few cold miles, then toss it at an aid station. It is not very attractive, and we've always kind of mocked the swish-swishers, but no more! I proudly wore my Hefty bag for 6 miles! Audrey and I decided by mile 3 that today was not the day to run a Boston qualifying race, and decided just to finish with smiles on (although I was secretly hoping to finish under 4 hours). Well, we ran a steady race, and despite the discouraging conditions (there was a soul sucking headwind too, did I mention that?) we survived and smiled at the finish. I got a Personal Record too by finishing at 3:54:34. It was very satisfying to conquer the weather, my mental and physical fatigue, the annoyance of squishing shoes and oddly placed blisters and a very long and not-as-downhill-as-they-claim race course. Would I do it again, knowing the misery in store? Absolutely - as long as Audrey ran with me. I'd run in a lot worse to be able to run with my sister!

It was so great to see Mike and the kids at mile 24 - just when I needed to see some loving faces. I must have looked so stunning that Mike forgot to take a picture (ha) but I think I can post a link to Marathonfoto. There were so many photographers along the race course that Audrey and I ran out of clever things to do after the, well, first one. Try this: http://www.marathonfoto.com/index.cfm?RaceOID=13112008M1&LastName=HOUSLEY&BibNumber=4762&Mailing=17678

Saturday, September 20, 2008

Top of Utah Marathon day

Well, I didn't actually run the marathon today but I sure feel like I did. No, I take that back. I can walk down the stairs without death gripping the handrails, so my leg muscles aren't sore, but I've been up since 4:45 and on my feet ALL DAY. It sure was fun though!

I've been involved with the marathon since 2001, just before running my first marathon in St. George. Now I'm the treasurer of the local running club and on the board for the marathon, and I love it. My main responsibilities are incredibly important: I get food :) Donuts for the aid station volunteers, string cheese and Pepperidge Farm cookies and goldfish crackers for the runners (odd choices but strangely appealing after 26 miles of Gatorade and Gu). Oh, and I help wash the leftover clothing, which is always so surprising in terms of just how many runners leave stuff behind. We always find some wiiiieeeerrrd things. I'll post an update after we go through the clothing on Monday in order to wash it all.

Anyway, my sister Audrey came up last night to help with packet pick-up and as always we spent most of the time laughing, finishing each other's sentances, and thinking the same things. This morning we delivered the above mentioned donuts to volunteers, accepted with varying degrees of gratitude (teenage boys are the most expressive) and returned to "catch" at the finish line. If you've ever watched at a marathon finish line you may have noticed how some runners, after bravely running every step of 26.2 miles, suddenly lose all locomotive ability and gravity increases exponentially once they cross the line. So, we catch. It's funny, some collapsers we can spot coming a block away, and others look great until their eyes start to roll back and then it's a mad dash to grab them before they hit the pavement. Some runners still have a pretty good sense of humor, and others are not amused. One girl I caught came in at 3:40:43 or so, concerned that she missed the 3:40 cut-off to qualify for the Boston Marathon. I told her that she just had to beat 3:40:59, and she hugged me and told me she loved me - about 10 times.

Still, the highlight had to be as the women's wheelchair winner was approaching the finish line. We have a yellow banner that two of the committee stretch out for overall winners to "break" as they cross - we've tried to coordinate it so that one of us lets go and the other hangs on to an end to keep the athlete from dragging it all the way down the finish chute. Kris and I had it all worked out, but as the female wheelchair athlete approached, a male runner ran up along side her. As I went out half way to stretch the banner out for her, this male runner (who was probably the 11th or 12th male runner to finish, so he KNEW he wasn't the winner) saw me and obligingly changed course to run and break the tape! Wha...? I only had about a half second to stick my arm out and none too gently nudge him away ("No - go over there!") and in so doing, I didn't get the banner where it needed to be and I ended up practically clotheslining the poor wheelchair gal. Embarrassing! I shoved a guy at the end of a marathon and nearly choked another athlete! As I turned around I saw the TV cameraman laughing and saying, "I just got the best footage!" I did go up to the male runner to apologize for shoving him and he laughed (albeit dazedly) and said, "I don't know what I was thinking!"

Another fabulous moment was when I had to run through the last block or so of the race trying to catch a dog who kept harrassing and cutting in front of runners. One of the spectators handed me a collar that the dog had slipped out of earlier, and when I finally caught up and snapped that collar on, I had to drag that dog back towards the EMT's and highway patrol. They suggested that I tye it up to the ambulance while they called animal control. My marathon duties are many and varied...

Anyway, it was a great race, and we had EXACTLY the right number of medallions (actually, Jeff had to retrieve the one in his car that he was keeping in reserve). We couldn't have planned that better. And the last two ladies to finish crossed the finish line at 8:12. Wow. The first runners and the last are always the most inspiring. They were two sisters, one dealing with weight issues and the other recovering from a blood clot-induced coma 18 months ago. Real people are so amazing.

Anyway, I had this poetic post all planned out in my head to describe the zen-state I achieved while doing my long run Friday morning, but that will have to come at another time. I'm tired and I'm guessing you are tired too.

Of reading all this marathon babble!

Wednesday, September 17, 2008

Grandpas, go-carts, and lovely daughters



When my dad announced his retirement in June, I had all kinds of visions of hiring him as General Purpose Handyman to complete the myriad of home improvement projects we have here at the Housley House. Unfortunately, my mother and siblings all have the same idea, and poor dad has the next 15 years all scheduled out. Still, he did come up for a few days to help with placing a border around the rock walls in the back yard, something we've needed to do for, oh, seven years now. What a tough guy. He finished in about 2 days worth, and it looks marvelous. Now all I need to do is kill off the morning glory (experts estimate that will take 40 years) and then plant some nice rock wall plants. Sounds like a nice project for next spring...


He spent lots of time with the kids, especially Esther, and Caleb actually started to weep when he came home from school today to find that Grandpa and Tobi (the dog) had already gone home. Still, Grandpa has left behind his legacy: he and Caleb finally mounted a seat on that old go cart. We are all prodigiously proud of the recycling effort that went in to this go cart: notice what the seat is made from? And Lilo the cat is certainly not sorry to see Tobi go. She only once ventured downstairs while he was here, and she didn't make that mistake again. I've never seen her skitter away so fast.


We've had a few requests for a photo of our new daughter - we can't decide quite what to call her yet. Her Chinese name is Heng Ai (pronounced hung-eye) which doesn't quite roll off the tongue. It has a nice story behind it though: Heng is the name shared by all the children who entered the orphanage that month, and Ai, meaning love, was given to her partly because she is so cute, and partly after the name of the policeman who brought her in. I would LOVE to meet that man and thank him for his small role in her life. We know so little about her past. I've wanted to share some of this but it is sensitive infomation, so please think carefully about who you share it with. She was found abandoned at the age of two years old, and it just hurts my heart to think of a lonely little girl crying for her mother. I know it is hard to imagine what kind of person would just walk away, but I refuse to believe it was anything but an act of great sorrow and grief, an act of desperation. She had recently had surgery on her ankle, and it was not healing - in fact, it was downright lifethreatening. My suspicion was that the parents (who COULD have abandoned her at birth, but did not) intended to raise this little girl, but after a poorly-done surgery, they brought her to Wuhan, only to find out that the necessary medical care to save this little girl's leg was more than they had or could ever get. It is hard for those of us who receive fairly decent medical care (with health insurance to cover the majority of the costs) to understand what it would mean to a poor family with absolutely no resources (not a single credit card!) to face this kind of obstacle. I don't for a minute believe that she was an unwanted child, and abandoned because she was a girl. I can't, I WON'T judge these parents, this family. There is no way for me to walk in their shoes. All I can do is give their daughter, my daughter, the opportunities they would want and might have provided if circumstances were different. That's a promise I've made to each of the birthparents of my adopted children. I'm gonna love them forever. That's the easiest part of parenting!
Anyway, what I started to say is that the CCAA (China Center for Adoption Affairs) won't let me post her photo in a public forum until we have a letter from them called an LOA - we won't get that for four months or more. We will travel to get her shortly after that. SO, if you want to see a photo, and you aren't just some random stranger, just let me know and I'll email one to you. She doesn't look anything like Esther, I think, but a friend mentioned she has the Hubei face and cheeks. Can't wait to kiss those cheeks!!! And many thanks to those of you who have left comments or sent emails. It is wonderful to have your support!
Esther has been especially cute the last few days (she was charming her grandpa!) and I LOVE this age! Well, most of the time. She is speaking so clearly and her voice is so so sweet. Well, most of the time! She doesn't sound so sweet when she responds, "FINE, baby!" but we are helping her replace it with a more demure "okay, mama." Josh and Caleb think it is hilarious to teach her rude comments, and she willingly parrots them if they will laugh. I'm not thinking it is quite so funny. They nicknamed her Bootchie Bum-Bum, but after a parental order to cut the Bum-Bum, she still answers to Bootchie. Someone please tell me if that is a rude word in some obscure language! She is quick to say sorry if she bumps or hurts someone, and yesterday I said, "That's okay, I forgive you." Clear as day she said, "I forgive you too, Mama." I remember when she first came home how anxious I was to hear her little voice speak to me, how I longed to hear her say, "I love you Mama," and it is every bit as sweet as I expected. I also remember thinking how well she was bonding with us at first, and I think she was, but it is so much stronger now - it just keeps getting better and better with this little girl.

Saturday, September 13, 2008

Our Exciting News

Big breath. We found her. We finally found her. We can't tell you many of the details, as China won't let us, but we can say, she's adorable! We are, of course, talking about the newest Housley daughter. Josh and Caleb's younger sister, and Esther's big sister. Yep, we're filling the big (seven year) gap between Caleb and Esther with a beauty who is about to turn five in November. Yes, yes, I know, adopting a 5 year old is a HUGE leap of faith, and a few days ago, this blog would have had a decidedly less-perky tone, but we are feeling the calm and peaceful feeling that we are on the right path!

I'll spare you all the sordid/mundane details about how we found a different agency, got approval from them to adopt out of birth order (meaning adopting a child older than our youngest - Esther), and realizing that this sweet little girl was the right one. Skipping to the more interesting part: She is from the Hubei province, seems very healthy other than her one special need (club foot), lives with a foster family, is always the first one to help up the younger children when they fall, wipe their noses, comfort them, etc. She's very smart and excels in school, knows colors, numbers, her name, nursery rhymes. She loves it when people comment about how pretty she is, but scowls when people stare at her leg. She has had surgery on her leg, but it doesn't appear it was too successful. We spoke to an orthopedist who believes that another surgery (or surgeries) will help give her full use of her leg and that she'll be able to have a very normal life (normal? at our house?! HA!). She may never run marathons, but that may be her only limitation. And we all know how overrated marathons can be, right? (Audrey, you know I'm only joking. I love marathons. I can't get enough of marathons. I wish I were running one right now.)

Now for reality... She will be five years old by the time we can go get her (January? February?). She will have memories of China, and she may have a definate feeling about wanting or not wanting to be adopted. Even if she is all for it, we will be sooooo strange to her in the beginning (stranger than we typically are), and leaving her orphanage/foster home will mean the loss of all that is familar to her. Imagine if every person your five year old child knew suddenly died, and he/she was taken by complete strangers to a completely different country with a different language, smell, foods, customs, everything. We have no illusion that this will go as smoothly as Esther's adoption did. In fact, we plan on it being much harder and much longer of an adjustment. A few days ago I started to feel panicky, are we really ready for this? Am I ready for this? I'm a pretty selfish gal, and I like my alone time. Am I ready for another child, and one who will need LOTS of my time and energy?

Fortunately, I got the answers I needed. The reaction I got from my parents was just priceless. and hey! We have a live-in interpreter! Thank you Jason :) Yes, this is the right thing. No, I'm not ready, but God will help me get there. He will prepare me if I trust Him, and He will prepare her. It's gonna be a bumpy ride, but man! what a ride!

Wednesday, September 10, 2008

A Curse Upon Sugarloaf

Now, you've got to understand the mind of Caleb. Here we have an extraordinarily confident boy. The sort of boy who JUST KNOWS things. Like how to tame a scorpion. How to hypnotise robbers. How to fix broken and castoff neighborhood toys. At one time, he was convinced he was a long lost member of the Incredibles Family. He hasn't convinced me with a lot of this stuff, but he firmly and truely believes it himself. He went through a phase a few years ago where he just knew he could win a toy out of those 50 cent machines where the clasping arms come down to firmly snag a priceless item and ferry it to the deliver-to-winner chute. Think "The Claw" from Toy Story. I tried in vain for weeks to convince him those are sneaky no-win wastes of money before I finally got smart and let him waste his own precious coins, then braced for the devastation when it actually turned out that I was right. Oh the weeping and wailing! He would still occasionally try it when he had shiny quarters burning holes in his pockets, lose again, and remember the hard lesson that those machines were dirty lousy cheats bent on prying hard-earned savings from unsuspecting and innocent youngsters. I honestly thought this kid had figured it out. But no.


A few days ago I hazarded a trip to Walmart with all four kids. It was just a quick trip (HA!), lasting less than an hour, and Caleb asked for permission to wander over to the little arcade just 20 feet or so away from the checkout.


I didn't realize he had money with him.


The next thing I know (and this happened in less than 2 minutes), Caleb came walking up triumphantly with a huge yellow teddy bear and an ecstatic grin. He actually managed to grab something with The Claw! He gave it to Esther right away, after all, the real prize was not the stuffed animal. It was Proving. Mothers. Are. Wrong. I couldn't believe it. I mean, this has set back Caleb's training by TWO YEARS! I will never forgive this company. My child is destined to become a gambler, I just know it. Now every time I see this tacky yellow teddy bear with the "Sugarloaf" brand on its ear, I want to curse them all to heck. Except when Esther is delightedly hugging the stuffing out of it.


Then it is kinda cute.

Tuesday, August 26, 2008

First day of school


I took several photos of Josh and Caleb before school (shocking, I know) but this one is my favorite.

Happy Birthday Josh



My baby boy is 10. Double digits. How did this happen? I remember so clearly that blue little bundle being placed in my arms, and how he smelled soooo good. My Josh, my first child, the one who made me a mom. The one who has taught me so much about what that really means. We've had struggles and ups and downs, but I have always wanted YOU. My most fervent wish for your life is for you to see the magic, the wonder, the amazing gift that you are. I love that you get so excited about a book that you try to tell me, and skip from idea to idea until I'm totally lost. I love that you have a tender spot for little ones, especially your sister, and that you can make her laugh like no one else. I love that you get totally on a roll when cooking and go way overboard. I love your giggle when you are really happy. I even love your vulnerability, the way you question yourself, but I love it more when you trust in yourself to succeed. You are a light and a joy. My precious baby boy.

Twilight, and the new normal



Now that the kids are back in school, I thought (foolishly) that I could get caught up on laundry, dishes, the constant layer of crumbs on the kitchen floor, and my house would look like someone actually made an effort to keep it presentable. You can probably guess where I'm going with this. Aside from the master bedroom, which looks nice mainly because we've piled things in the closet, I can't really tell much difference from pre-return-to-school and now. Okay, I will admit that I read ALL FOUR of Stephenie Meyer's Twilight series books between Thursday afternoon and Monday afternoon, so it wasn't like I was sitting on the couch watching soap operas (I was sitting on the couch reading a soap opera!). I resisted the siren call of those books for as long as I could, with perhaps a touch of pride that I was apparently the last warm blooded female to hold out, until my sister Jen made all four books available at once, and I just couldn't resist. I called her after finishing the first book and immediately starting the second, and could only squeak out, "CURSE YOU! I can't get a blasted thing done until I see how this series ends!" Yes, yes, Edward was perfection, and I've always had a soft spot for Native Americans (Jacob just sounds yummy) but I have to admit that I'll take my warm, real hubby over fictional characters any day. Snuggling up to Mike is still way better than reading about Bella snuggling up to vampires or werewolves, however divine they are. And now when the topic of conversation turns to the books, I can actually gush right along with the best of them.


Jason seems to be adjusting well, though I think he spends too much time in the bat cave that is his room on the lower floor. I don't get to hear much about his day, and I always feel like I'm bothering him when I go down there. He has admitted that, so far, Spanish is his hardest class (learning a foreign language through another foreign language sounds soooo easy) (Jason, if you read this, what I just said is considered SARCASM - you'll probably find a lot of that on this blog). He is enjoying his cooking class more than he expected, and he made a mean batch of cookies last week. Which were all eaten within 24 hours. No prizes guessing who ate the most (me). We all had a great time at Bear Lake last Saturday (forgot the camera, big surprise), and my two boys even admitted that it is still possible to have fun without jetskis or boats. Jason and I tossed the frisbee back and forth while Mike cooked kebabs on the grill, and Esther was just Esther. Happy, happy, happy.

Thursday, August 14, 2008

Turns out it was English all along


Well, I totally missed an opportunity to preserve family vacation memories this last week when I neglected to even bring the camera with us to Bryce Canyon, where my parents and 3 of my 4 siblings met to camp. It wasn't much of a vacation anyway. I mean, it was lots of fun, there just wasn't enough days to really call it a vacation. If the days spent preparing and cleaning up after a vacation equal the days ON vacation, I don't think it really counts. So anyway, no photos, except this not very good one taken with Mike's cell phone. I may just get fired as this family's historian.


It WAS a lot of fun, especially hearing the wow's when the boys saw the canyon from the rim. And the switchbacks along Navajo Loop down into the canyon were tons of fun for Josh and Caleb, until it came time to hike back out. I was really proud of the boys, they and their cousins Jack and Connor totally whupped the adults on this hike. I tried to run on Monday morning, but it turned out to be a run/walk as I was gasping for oxygen, but I did find a system of x-country ski trails that were awesome, and the discovery of a prairie dog colony ranks in my top trail running moments. The first prairie dog started to chirp a warning as I came around a bend in the trail, and within moments the whole meadow was chirping. I know they were all warning each other about this strange human, but to me it sounded like applause, and I reveled in the moment. Plus, it was at the end of the run, and so I got to quit wheezing. I ran again the next morning, and that was even better because I felt more energetic and had my sister to talk to. We are both very excited to run our 20 and 22 mile training runs together to have some serious talk time. Wait. Did I just post excited and 22 miles in the same sentance?


We all mourned when we learned that Mike did not, in fact, have someone to work for him on Wednesday, and that we'd have to come home on Tuesday night (Josh, perhaps, mourned a little more vocally that the rest of us). And it was regrettable that we chose to spend our last few hours fruitlessly searching for a mythological slot canyon that stubbornly remained hidden, despite our searching for it for 3 hours! Everyone was very gracious, considering the wild goose chase nature of the search, but we all came perilously close to running out of water, food, and good humor with the Housleys. Ah well, my brother did say he was all for an adventure. AND we hiked a very out-of-the-way dry stream bed, full of... rocks and mud.


I think the most memorable part of the vacation for me was the pineapple can saga. See, I was in charge of the dutch oven dessert, and so I brought the ingredients for a pineapple upside-down cake. The DI can opener we had in the trailer broke with the first twist of the pineapple can, which I had pulled out of the cupboard upside down and figured opening either end would do. I briefly tried to fix it, but it was beyond my expertise. Most things are. I went to my SIL Tiff to borrow their can opener, and spent a good 10 minutes searching through bins only to find it on the table two feet from my head. It was a Pampered Chef opener, the kind that cuts the top part of the can, and so I had to receive instruction from Tiff, having never used one before. I went back to my trailer, performed the complex can opening maneuver, and rejoiced in my success! Finally! Eager for some praise, I took the second can (also upside-down) and the new-fangled opener out to Mike to show off, and while doing so, turned the second can over. Any guesses what I found? A PULL TAB. Yep, I just wasted 15 minutes opening the underside of a can that had a pull top.


So we came home Tuesday night instead of Wednesday afternoon, pulling in at about 1:30am and unloading only the most essential items (the children, for example). I spent most of the day Wednesday unloading the trailer and doing laundry, and trying to get the house in decent enough order before we left to pick up Jason, our Chinese exchange student, at the airport. At one point, I lamented to Mike on the phone that I was running behind: I still hadn't showered, or done the dishes, etc, etc. His reply was sort of comforting, "Well, I'm sure Jason has seen dirty dishes before, but you might want to get that shower in."


Jason's plane was a little late, so we sat in the waiting area on the one spare chair, watching passenger after passenger file through. Mike finally got up to buy something from the little convenience store a few steps away, and sure enough this tall, slender young Chinese fellow came rushing through at about 3 times the speed as any other traveler. I had to call out his name several times before he saw me (though how he could have missed the large welcome sign with his name on it and flanked by 6 helium balloons was a mystery) (and how come we were the only people there with balloons? I thought that was a traditional airport greeting! Are balloon bouquets going the way of all luxuries in this sad economic state?). He gave us each a hug, and Mike remarked as an aside that Jason may be 6 inches taller, but Mike (who is very trim and fit) has a good 30 pounds of lean muscle mass that are absent on this kid. Jason seemed very anxious about getting his luggage, so of course it wasn't there (got left in Chicago) and we had to have them deliver it tonight. Thank heavens we had some toothbrushes to spare. He was WIDE awake and raring to go; we got home at 2am and I stayed up with him until 3, helping him email his parents. He was up by 7am, and, thinking it was Caleb walking around in the kitchen, I ALMOST leaned around the railing and hissed, "Get back to bed!" So glad I didn't! He seems a very open and friendly kid, and things have gone well so far, but I can tell he's suffering from some culture shock. Nothing I can definately pinpoint, it is evident to me that he is wondering why on earth we Americans do the things we do. We took him to the high school to register, and only barely managed talking him out of 3 AP classes by promising him the Chem 1010 was still a college level class. So now it is just AP physics and AP calculus. He seems very concerned that the math would be too easy for him. Good grief. The counselor did talk him into some "fun" classes like woodworking and cooking, but I can tell he isn't nearly that excited about those classes. He flatly refused Social Dance. Pity. He did make a comment about men being better teachers for math and science than women are, and I'm already planning in my head the lecture to address this concern (of mine). I am grateful that his parents specifically instructed us to help him learn about independence and selflessness. I can see why they were worried about it. He spent most of the afternoon playing games with Josh and Caleb, and beat me at chess (but not without a fight!). I think we will settle into a comfortable relationship with him, once Mike and I get caught up on sleep. These 2 and 3am bedtimes (with 7am awakenings) are ROUGH.


He did help us decipher the song sung by the little pokemon toy that was given to Esther by the orphanage staff. We could never (nor could our Chinese guide) figure out what it was saying, but it turns out the song is in English: "Aiyiyi, I'm your little butterfly. Green black and blue make the colors of the sky." Who knew?

Sunday, August 3, 2008

Introducing our family...plus one

This blog is intended for friends and family who already know us, but just in case you've stumbled across this and for some strange reason want to actually read it, this is who we are. Mike is Dad, Heather is Mom, and Josh, Caleb, and Esther are The Kids. Yep. That pretty much sums it up. You may note that Esther is more gorgeous than the rest of us, for the simple reason that she has good genes, and she comes from China. We adopted her into our family last year when she was 13 months old and she has been a joy and delight ever since. Josh always wants me to mention that he was adopted too (from Idaho!) and I am happy to oblige for as long as he wants to share that info (and I have to say, he has awesome genes too). Poor Caleb has only Mike and I to draw from.

We also made a rather spur of the moment decision to host an international exchange student from China for the school year. His name is Jiang Tao ("Jason"), he is 16 (and 6'2"!) and is from Shanghai. I will admit the thought of an exchange student didn't interest me much until we heard about him, and it has all just fallen into place and feels right. We were able to call him on skype this morning, and when he asked us to turn on our web camera, I had to sheepishly admit that we don't have one. But Best Buy is open in the morning... We did get to see him though, as well as his parents. It was really sweet to watch him with his mother as she would pose a question, then motion for him to translate it to us. I am in awe of parents who would entrust their only son to near-complete strangers, and I feel a lot of pressure to take good care of him while he is here. I think my biggest concern is that he will starve eating my cooking! Josh is especially excited to have an older brother and can hardly talk about anything else, and Caleb nearly bounced off the couch when Jason told him he was practicing a few magic tricks to show him. Esther will no doubt have him eating out of her palm shortly, just like every other male in this house! Jason is due to arrive on August 13, next Wednesday. I'll put a picture on this blog when he gets here. I am such a novice at parenting 16 year old boys; did I really think this through?!

Let's get this thing up and running!

Well, I've had this blog address for a while, but got stuck on the first step: putting in a family photo. How sad. I am hoping that this will be an easy way to keep family and friends updated on Housley Happenings, and can only hope it isn't dry-as-toast reading. I am not a natural writer - eloquent as heck in my head, but by the time it comes out my fingers, it seems to stutter and sound rather dull. My apologies. I will do my best to keep this light and entertaining, but I draw the line at hiring a ghost writer, so you are stuck with me!